Knowing The Difference Between Kinky Sex And Rape

We all have sexual fantasies and would definitely like to try it out with our partners. Though some fantasies might be fun and thrilling, others might be a bit awkward and might not be enjoyed by our partners. It is up to you to know where to draw the lines when it comes to sexual fantasies. Not stopping when your partner refuses can be termed as ‘rape’.

How is Rape Different from Kinky Sex

Rape occurs when sexual intercourse takes place without the consent of any one of the partners or with any underage person. It can also take place under the influence of alcohol, drugs, or use of violence to force a person to have sex.

Rape can also take place during dates. This is commonly referred to as date rape. The only difference between rape and date rape is that the victim knows their attacker. Rape is a serious crime and this can cause physical and mental trauma to the victim.

In the case of kinky sex, partners indulge in the sexual fantasies with the consent of each other. Here you can make use of sex toys, bondage tools knowing that your partner is comfortable with this. You need to draw a line if you feel that your partner is getting obsessed with their sexual fantasies.

If you feel that there is too much bondage and violence involved in your sexual activity, ask your partner to stop and seek help for them. There are many good counsellors out there who might be able to give you the right advice on such issues.

Can Sexual Fantasies End in Abusive Relationships

Many people dream of indulging in a rape fantasy with their partner. There is some thrill and excitement for women to act submissive and defenceless against their partners. In the attempt to fulfil your sexual fantasy, things might get too rough and uncomfortable.

Your partner might get too carried away in your ‘rape fantasy’ that he might actually cause you body harm and might manipulate or pressure you to have sex with him. Here is where you need to set up some rules and guidelines when it comes to kinky sex.

Come up with a word or sign that portrays how you feel during sex. If you do not like a particular position or foreplay say the ‘magic work’ firmly and ask them to stop. The main ingredient in any relationship is respecting each other.

Know Your Limits When it Comes to Fantasies

You might have heard the saying better safe than sorry. The same rule applies to relationships. You need to know your boundaries when it comes to role play or enacting your sexual fantasies. If your partner is uncomfortable with the idea of bondage or blindfold sex, then forgo the idea and try out something else.

You can try out different sexual positions and add spice to your love life. If you really want to try out something kinky, make a list of what stuff you can try and consult with your partner if they are comfortable with them.