You have finally met your match and you are ready to get into a serious relationship with them. You are all prepared to propose to your partner only for them to drop the bomb, that they have been married a couple of times. Now, what do you do? This is a very complex scenario where you can neither turn your back to the situation neither give a positive response.
Giving Your Partner a Chance at the Relationship
Now that you know that your partner has already been committed, you need to tread carefully with them. It does not mean that they are not the right person for you. Every relationship does not always have to be a bed of roses. Maybe they did not share the same relationship with their previous partners as they share with you.
Secondly, you need to understand that they too have been through a tough phase in their lives. What if the tables were turned and you were in the same situation? Would you not want your partner to love you and trust you? The same is expected from you.
No one is perfect. We all have had our shares of mistakes in relationships. You need to give them a chance at beginning a new chapter in their lives. You never know, this partner could actually be the ‘one’ for whom you have been waiting all your life.
Dealing with the Emotional Baggage
Everybody comes with an emotional baggage. While some of us are good with hiding emotions, others are not. When it comes to dating a person who is married a couple of times, you might even need to take into consideration their emotional baggage.
Many of them might not be able to open up with you. You need to be patient and acquire their trust. You need to understand why their previous marriages failed. Their version of the story might be very far from what you expected. In simple words, you need to be there for them when they need you the most.
Show them how much you love or care for them. Give them time to heal. When they see the love and respect that you have for them, they will slowly open up to you.
Benefits of Dating People Who Have Married Multiple Times
Dating people who have been married before is not such a bad thing. Think of it as an experience where you might get to learn new and better things about dating. Bear in mind that they are experienced and will know how to make the relationship work.
They might not accept too much from you since they have already made that mistake and lost out on a marriage. Secondly they will be wise and more matured. Thirdly imagine your sexual life with them. They might be able to teach you a trick or two when it comes to hot and steamy sex.
They will learn to appreciate the smallest things that you do for them since they have already learnt from their past mistakes.