Know 5 Hidden Characteristics Of Sexually Healthy Adults

To be sexually healthy, you need to foster certain traits. These characters are not only built on trust but also seek to wade off uncertainties that may arise in a relationship. With practice, you can develop the essential characteristics. The cornerstone of the behaviors rests on emotional connection, open communication, and reproductive behavior. But there is more to it than just these principles. Read further to understand the five hidden characteristics of sexually healthy adults below:

1. Healthy adults know that sex isn’t necessarily ‘dirty’ nor ‘naughty’

Whether it is because they grew up in a healthy environment or they had to learn it themselves, healthy adults understand that sex is something intimate between lovers.

What that means is that sex does not necessarily have to be seen as 'naughty' or even 'dirty'.

If anything, they also naturally understand that sexy or anything that is supposed to be sexually presentable can be sophisticated when delivered in the right way.

Healthy adults think of sex as just a natural part of human lives and they just appreciate it.

In terms of their sexual relationship, they are also people who have respect for other people's sexuality and will not force their ideas nor urges unto their partner.

Sex is a healthy thing when done correctly with the right person and healthy adults respect themselves enough to not give themselves away easily--even if they are males.

2. Healthy adults communicate their sexual needs and restrictions clearly

Healthy adults are self-respecting individuals. As with any person who knows how to respect themselves, they will be respectful towards another person, too.

This also applies in matters of the bedroom.

A healthy adult who respects himself or herself will know how to communicate his or her sexual needs without fear of offending a partner.

This is because they are adept at the art of healthy and clear communication.

And so, even if they have conveyed a novel idea and their partner rejects that idea, they will accept that and respect the partner's opinions and values.

According to an article from Baylor College of Medicine, communication regarding sexual activity involves more than a simple "yes" or "no" for consent. It entails understanding and expressing the desires, needs, and wants of both partners in detail. Engaging in open and comprehensive discussions enables a deeper understanding of each other's preferences, fostering a more fulfilling and consensual sexual experience.

In the same way, a healthy adult will also know how to politely and diplomatically reject their partner's novel idea of --perhaps--a kinky sex routine.

At any rate, at the core of a healthy adult, sex should be mutually fun and everybody's opinion and restriction are appreciated.

3. Healthy adults aren’t easily threatened by someone else’s sexual appeal

Have you met a person who seems easily triggered by another person's beauty or sex appeal? Usually of the same sex, of course.

The presence of another attractive man or woman threatens their sense of confidence and they could easily become envious or even jealous of the perceived 'competition'.

These are some signs of a very unhealthy adult who doesn't understand that another person's beauty does not have to mean the absence of his or her own beauty.

A healthy adult is someone who can respect and appreciate what they have already got for themselves.

Plus, they know that whatever they have to offer will be seen as more valuable by the right person.

With that said, they are not easily threatened by another person's sex appeal because they have confidence in themselves, and at the same time, they appreciate another person's superior qualities.

4. Healthy adults prioritise safe and responsible sex above all else

Surely you have heard plenty of stories about individuals--men or women--who don't take safe sex very seriously.

Such individuals think they can just wing it and get by not getting someone (or themselves) pregnant or even spread the possibility of sexually transmitted diseases.

Such people do exist and they are the ones we call unhealthy adults.

Of course, we are not judging people, because after all, we don't know what has happened in the lives of such people, but if you are a responsible person you won't be irresponsible in your sexual endeavours.

Safe sexual practices are vital in reducing the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and creating a safe environment for everyone involved. By taking precautions and being responsible, individuals can protect themselves and their partners from the negative consequences of STIs while preventing their transmission to others. Prioritizing sexual health contributes to overall well-being and fosters a safe environment, as highlighted in an article from MyAlly Health.

Healthy adults have plenty of knowledge and understanding about the dangers of free sex and with that, they exercise caution and try to be responsible.

These are the people who will properly wear a condom as a means to protect themselves and respect the person they are having sex with.

5. Healthy adults do not use sex as a tool for manipulation

Unhealthy adults who still bear the pains of their childhood traumas may become the kind of people who uses sex as a tool for power control.

They want to overpower the person they are with and sex is their main tool for seduction, manipulation, and probably even isolation.

Such individuals who use sex as a tool for manipulation are very dangerous people and should be avoided at all costs.

In his thought-provoking book titled Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us (1993), Professor Robert Hare delves into the intriguing concept of the sexual psychopath. Within this captivating exploration, he sheds light on an exceptionally intense manifestation of both sexual and emotional manipulation. Through his thorough analysis, Hare offers valuable insights into the nature and complexities surrounding individuals who exhibit such extreme behavioral patterns.

A healthy adult, on the other hand, will never use sex as a means to gain control over someone else because they themselves are self-respecting individuals.

A healthy adult uses sex as a way to bond with the person they love and a great deal of respect is involved in their sexual activities.

A healthy adult will not make you feel bad about having had sex with them and they never ask for anything weird, like your undying devotion to them.

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6. Fosters on relationship

Sexually healthy adults don’t gravitate around sex alone. Instead, they seek long-lasting companionship devoid of sexual agenda.

They are honest, trustworthy, and responsible. This means that they focus on nurturing their friendship beyond the bedroom.

They are always instilling security while providing a safe and free atmosphere for their partners. Besides, they are safe to be with and give their time, attention, and occasionally skills, to grow with their partners.

And reminding their partners that they are more than just friends, the sexually-healthy adults are not averse to initiating physical contact. They incorporate touching, kissing, and caressing in their repertoire.

Still, they set their boundaries, knowing where to stop if their partner asks for personal space or feels uncomfortable with certain handling. They individual strive to respect their partner’s opinion on various ambiguous issues.  

This means that they can cuddle in a harmless manner that doesn’t involve genital manipulation.

7. Self-respect

Sexually-healthy individual prioritizes self-esteem and self-worth. Just like they adore their bodies, they treat their partners the same way.

This means that they are aware of their body’s physical limits and try to stay within them. They don’t indulge in risky binge drinking while with strangers.

Still, they are confident of their potential and desires, while also accepting their flaws and working to improve on these.

So, they touch their body without any guilt or shame. They also allow their partners to handle them in a way they like.

In the caressing situation, they give themselves to the present situation and respond to the pleasurable experience without fear.

This way they release their being to participate in sensual and sexual feelings. They are free to reciprocate the sensation to their partners in a respectable way.

Sexually healthy adults have a developed sense of self-identity and accept that they are different from their partners. Thus they embrace their partner’s sexual inadequacy.